Families that play together, stay together!
In the process of getting to be number one, we have created a “monster” which many are blind to, some even treat it as a normal part of life in Singapore. Sadly but surely, we will reap what we sow.
I am talking about personal relationships. Relationships in the family, with our neighbors, our relatives and even the way we relate and treat our colleagues, clients and business associates.
We have created the “Touch n Go” monster!
“Touch n Go” technology can be found when we take the public transport, entering restricted areas, office buildings and car parks. We want to be fast and efficient in these areas and these are good to have. We do not have to deal with another human being when we do these things.
In Singapore, our busy work schedule have created “Touch n Go” relationships. See if you have created this monster in your life by answering the following questions:
1) Do you know why your child seems “cold” to you, or the other way could be why your child clings on to you when you leave for work?
2) Why don’t we relax, sit down and talk during a meal with our family?
3) Do you rush through a conversation with your loved ones but can sit in a meeting for hours in the office?
4) Speak harshly and impatient when your loved ones are slow to speak but you are still a gentle listener when it comes to your clients.
5) Do you mumble when your loved ones ask about your day but you are fully alert when your boss talks to you?
6) Do you work on your computer at home when your family needs your attention at 9 pm?
7) Do you rush out to work every morning before your family wakes up and comes home when everyone is asleep?
8 ) Do you shout at your child when she messed up the living room when she was happily playing with her toys, you were too busy to play with her.
9) Do you call your parents, mum or dad at all?
10) Do you spend quiet time with God, spend some solitude time alone to reflect what you have been doing with yourself and your family?
The questions above are not exhaustive but you get my drift……
Yes, we all need to put food on the table and a roof over our heads.
I believe in Singapore, it is more than that. We want to impress the people that we do not know, with things we do not need, bought with the money we do not have.
True and lasting happiness comes when we spend quantity time with loved ones as much as possible, not when you collect the keys to your new house or new car. This feeling will not last. Imagine a house without happy people in them or driving all alone in that fancy sports car.
Wealth without true loving relationship is meaningless. King Solomon said ” Vanity of vanities, all is vanity” The most important relationship is our relationship with our creator, God. Build it and you will find true joy and peace forever.